The Woes of Bringing Life

They say we as women have to go through these struggles to ensure we bring new life into this world and so many of us women have to do it virtually alone. Some unlike me are so young but the pain and uncertainty no less. It is a torture sometimes that many wish they were blessed with understanding from the men we so willingly gave into, who turns out sometimes not to be so willing to help us through it all. Some, and i say some because I've seen men who would give their all to see their child come into this world unscathed, some just don't have a clue what we women have to go through. They make it so much harder for us when they are not there when we need them the most. we get this way about us when we conceive that a un-compassionate man can only see as disgust because of that. You might find your partner beginning to display hate towards you for things most times you have no control over. these emotional changes are hard to define and even harder to explain to someone that have never experienced them. Some men might think you're just trying to find an excuse for your awful behavior but what they don't understand is; those things they look at as so simple hurts so much...its so funny and as simple as him putting something where it shouldn't be and when you ask him not to he expresses how disgusted he is by your behavior and that just tares a little piece of you apart. the anger that is directed at you for things you have no control over making it seem there was never any love between you and there will never be again. 

then comes regret...not regret for the child you now carry but regret for the situation you have to take that child into. so many of us lose our partners during this process because the love you felt never returned to that common ground, this is one of the worst things that can happen during pregnancy and it happens so often. As a woman you just have to channel that hidden strength and find a way to cope, yes tears will come but they'll go away... the life moving inside you will give you the motivation you need to go on. I've been there as most of us have and I've been told by so many that you going to stress out yourself and the baby. But until they have felt that pain and despair you have they will never understand that you do care for yourself and your child its just that the pain is so unbearable sometimes all you can do is cry. i have to send my appreciation to the men that find it within them to stick it out during this very difficult time and to the women that hold them dear to their heart. You are some of the luckiest women in this cruel world and to the men i have to declare you some strong minded men for its not a easy road to travel when living with these woes.... And for those who understand are Laughing and Crying at the same time right now!....  

                             In the End all that truly matters is the Blessing of Bringing Life